It’s never actually the “wrong” decision or experience, I don’t believe that exists. Especially with control. Sure, you might feel like something’s wrong, but that’s just learning what you’d rather try next time. 

What I’m finding with control is that after we can accept how little of it we actually have, the work is ultimately discovering when to push and when to pull or when to relax and float along with the ebb and flow of it all.

Even if we can’t agree on what’s “really going on,” we can all agree to take a look at how our conclusions affect our emotions. And how our emotions affect our actions. And how our actions affect those around us.